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Question #1:

Parents relationship help!?

Last year I started dating my girlfriend. I met her my freshman year of college, and she was a senior in the local highschool. Stuff was great between us last year, but once half of the summer passed, we ran into problems. My Dad is a friend not just a father, so i vented to him about the issues. My girlfriend made some choices that even I was upset about, and I ended things with her. The first semester of school started, and we were not together. Her and I talked everything out, and have spent the first two months of this spring semester together. She is in college now, and I have to say that between my improvement on communication and her maturity from going to college, everything has been great. Its lke we can get down to the friendship and love we knew was there. I could not feel more confident or be more happy about what we have.
I am home for spring break, and my Dad and I just got in a fight about my relationship. He said he doesn't trust her, that she is a whore, that I should make the right choice and dump her, that she is out to get me and has a grasp on me, and that he is extremely upset about my choices. He said that our father son relationship is fundamentally different now that I'm back with her.
I spend so much wonderful time with my girl, she respects me, I get plenty of time with friends, we make choices from both sides of the relationship, and I know everything is going in a good direction.
My Dad has cut off people for years. He rarely agrees with any of my relationships or sister's relationships. He has no social friends, and neither does my Mom, outside of work.
I value my relationship with my Dad, but his level of aggression and disapproval with the situation scares me. Im afraid to lose his support as a person. I cannot and will not lose what I have with my girlfriend, she means the world to me. I have a good GPA, im going to Quantico to train to be a Marine Officer, Im self motivated, and every choice I have made in the past five years has been approved and praised by my parents. I don't know why their approval is so conditional, I hate that their love has standards, and that my Dad won't step out of his own shoes for a minute.
I know he is looking out for me, but I am confident I am making the right choice.

HOW DO I BALANCE EVERYTHING, WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH MY DAD. SHOULD I TELL MY GIRLFRIEND THE SITUATION? I HURT HER BY TELLING HER LAST YEAR THEY DIDNT LIKE HER, I DONT WANT TO DO IT AGAIN, BUT I WANT TO BE HONEST WITH HER. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO MY DAD, OR SHOULD I JUST SEPERATE THAT PART OF MY LIFE AND LET TIME SHOW THAT I HAVE AN AMAZING GIRL WHO DESERVES TO BE FORGIVEN AND ACCEPTED. I ADMIRE AND LOVE HER SO MUCH. WHAT DO I DO???

Question #2:

My Dad hates my girlfriend, what do I do?

Question #3:

I won't be able to date until I turn 28. Would this be a problem?

This question might be pretty unusual to you, but I consider this as a serious problem.
I am currently a premedical student preparing for medical school. Due to the excessive amount of studying, volunteering and researching, I wasn't able to have a relationship though I am 22 years old already.

I briefly hung out with a girl when I was a sophomore (20 years old). Back then, I was too immature to date. We studied and ate together almost everyday for three months. There were many moments when this girl was sending me signals to kiss her, so we could move up to dating or perhaps a relationship from just hanging out, but I couldn't catch any of them. I was just utterly ignorant and immature about dating and having a relationship.

After three months of effort, she was still with me, but I did something extremely foolish and immature, so she left me, and I learned my painful lesson. If I try to find a cause of my ignorance, it would be from my conservative family background, because I never saw my parents kissing or even hugging.

Showing affection to someone is part of human behavior that needs to be taught by parents during one's childhood, but I didn't get to learn this behavior.

I understand my problem and willing to work on this by meeting girls, but I am concerned about my age and maturity. By the time when I finish my preparation for medical school, I would be 23, and most girls who are in this age would be way more mature than I am. In fact, once I am in medical school, I may not be able to date girls because of heavy load of studying. I just don't know what to do.. I wish that I am a genius who can do dating and studying both at the same time, but I had to make a lot of self-improvement to become a competitive applicant for medical school.

How would you deal with this problem if you are in my shoes?

Question #4:

I am 22 and never had a relationship before. Would this be a problem?

Question #5:

I am 22 and never had a relationship before. Is this bad?

Question #6:

Is start dating at 23 or even older too late?

Question #7:

Where did these beliefs come from?

Individual responsibility for self & community improvement is a hall mark of western civilization. Where did these beliefs come from?
It has an actual answer. Its for my Latin America class.

Question #8:

is being a perfectionist or striving for too many things a bad mix with being married with 2 kids?

I am married with 2 kids and I always find myself thinking about how I can better myself- get in better shape, get bigger muscles, make more money, get another masters degree, get some type of certification that will help my career? Do you think that in general it is a mistake for such inward focused people that are constantly striving to do more and more and be better and better to get married and have kids when marriage and kids requires so much sacrifice?
I love my family and I often find myself feeling bad about myself for the selfish feelings I have towards my own self improvement. Its too late now, but I wonder how you would advise people like me as to whether marriage and kids are a good fit for people with personalities like mine.

Question #9:

poll: do you thing self improvement is like masturbation?

Question #10:

I have a little extra tummy fat on the bottom of my tummy.?

I have been running for the past 3 months, a mile every morning and some ab workouts. I have seen improvements but I am still going crazy that it is there. I always have been self conscious about it and really want it gone before summer. Any extra advice or extra workouts I can do to help speed along the process would be awesome! Also, I am only 15 so please no diet pills or anything I would need to buy.

Question #11:

Does love blossom in PhD programs? Or is everyone already married?

I am 31 yrs old. I have a BA and an MA. And its hard to meet women outside of bars (not my scene). Meeting women in school was relatively easy (at least in comparison to everywhere else). But now that I've been out for 3 yrs, its not so easy.

I am always up for self improvement so I was thinking about going for my PhD. Is this a good way to meet women? Are they likely already married? Would I be better off just going back for another Masters?

Question #12:

Where is your Parts of Fortune? Is this true about you?

Part of Fortune in 1st House

Part of Fortune in the First House suggests that your greatest success will come by developing independence and self-sufficiency - meeting life experience with individual initiative and not being dependent on the views of others.

Part of Fortune in 2nd House

Suggests that you need to discover what is of real value to you. Money and the things it will buy are of extreme importance, but only insofar as how your possessions reflect true value. You can be extremely lucky with money if it truly reflects a sincere value. Eventually you will develop an ability to see what is personally meaningful and necessary.

Part of Fortune in 3rd House

You will have the ability to meet the obstacles found within your immediate environment and deal effectively with them. Developing the ability to think clearly is what will bring your greatest fortune.

Part of Fortune in 4th House

The feeling for home and roots will be strong. Happiness will come through building an emotional foundation strong enough to support future growth. This position gives the possibility of finding fulfilment in a broader way through identification with a social, professional or national whole.

Part of Fortune in 5th House

Success usually comes from the growth of creative abilities, or in a will to power. Great joy comes from being deeply and intensely involved in all that you are able to create. With this placing you must be very discriminating with your choice of friends.

Part of Fortune in 6th House

Happiness may be found in work, self-improvement and self-discipline. You will be at your best during times of crisis because of an ability to take the correct action. Great joy will come from developing your natural abilities and using them constructively in whatever field of work or service you may be involved.

Part of Fortune in 7th House

Happiness is found in important human relationships that give a sense of direction and meaning to life. With this placing, luck and good fortune usually come through other people.

Part of Fortune in 8th House

Happiness will come through your ability for financial management, especially other people s financial affairs - such as banking, contractual agreements, business, marriage, etc. Luck and good fortune will be bestowed on you by other people.

Part of Fortune in 9th House

Happiness will come from a search for truth and the deep study of such subjects as sociology, psychology, religion and metaphysical law. There is also a possibility of distant travels.

Part of Fortune in 10th House

You will seek happiness through accomplishment and in fulfilling a constructive role in society.

Part of Fortune in 11th House

You may have the urge to be a reformer or pioneer of new social, cultural or spiritual values. Happiness will come from contact with bright, intelligent people or friends who stimulate your imagination with inspired ideas and noble concepts.

Part of Fortune in 12th House

You may find happiness in accepting and thus transforming or dissolving your Karma to complete a cycle of experience. The achievements of this cycle may become the seeds or foundation of a new cycle. In an 'occult' sense, you may even find it possible to reach 'personal immortality', so that what you are as a formed mind is able to survive the disintegration of the physical body. You will find great happiness and joy through periods of solitude for meditation and attunement with your inner self.

Mine is in 11th house. It is kinda true.

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Question #13:

is my guage infected? its peeling and swollen and leaking! Experianced stretchers please!?

ok so ive tried going up to a size 2 g two times last year i just gave up and took them out becausei didnt wanna handle cleaning my ears alot because they would leak and get crusty so i tried again this year and everything seemed fine until i got to an 8g thats when the crusting began but i would put hydrogen peroxide and clean my tapers with anti bacterial hand soap (my tapers are acrylic) now im at a 2g still wearing those tapers but it seems really bad! my earlobes part of the back of my neck and my sides are all peeling i think its because they get some clear liquid that comes out of my ear. my earlobe its self is leaking and peeling and crusting -_- its also red n my mom says alittle purple. ihave tried doing sea soaks twice a day and i havent seen much improvement so MY QUESTION IS: what can i BUY that will make my ears go back to normal while still being able to wear plugs. && second if i buy stainless steel 2g tunnels do you think that could make a diffrence than wearing 2g acrylic tapers?

Question #14:

How the books on "Self Improvement/Self Management/Self Progress"" subjects improved you in your own life?

The inspiration of asking this question is from a talk show ""Neeyaa, Naanaa"" in a Tamil Television Channel Star Vijay.

How much inspiration you got/getting through these books (OR)
Are you getting inspiration of self improvement from the life and experiences of people around you like your dad,mom,friends, etc ? ? ?

Question #15:

Tell me I look like Brad Pitt. Or otherwise lather me with praise. Please?

If it's not obvious, the title of this question is slightly sarcastic in nature.

Rather than asking to be rated, I'd like to ask *why* people ask to be rated - and then delete their question after receiving all around negative results. You're obviously confident enough to post pictures of yourself up on the Internet, so why are backing off because other people disagree with your own perception of yourself?

I mean, the answer is relatively clear. People don't like negativity directed at themselves. They think that so long as they shrug off the answers they received before deleting their question as the responses of nasty, nasty "cyber-bullies", then they're absolved of their own physical deficiencies. What do other people think, though?

Please, please, please! Don't misinterpret what I'm saying! I've got no problem with people who are actually insecure about themselves, who are actually seeking self-improvement in terms of their physical appearance and their fashion sense. The people I do have a problem with are the vain little twits who ask for nothing more than a 1-10 rating, and the moment they receive lower than a six, immediately send off their question to the vast vacuum of cyberspace.

Apologies if it seems like I'm whining, or ranting, or using up precious room in here.
It's nice to know that you think I'm a huge "dusher". I think you're an unoriginal moron, but hey - what can you do?
Person with about half a dozen Ls in front of your name - I disagree. Most people can receive serious ego boosts (or receive very serious blows to their ego that can take a long time to recover from) from a random person off the Internet giving them an overinflated compliment.

Some people on here think I'm mean because I actually answer honestly when somebody wants to be evaluated. I mean, what's the point in asking to receive advice if you're not open to somebody pointing out flaws?

Question #16:

is it morally wrong to improve human capabilities through nanotechnology?

with nano technology we can do the following
1. stop aging process, improve immunity, regeneration, auto synthesizing drugs and artificial hormones and even chemicals for self defense like poison, gas, even energy
2. our body can sythesize our own food/energy source, maybe even water and oxygen. (we don't even need to breathe, drink,or eat to survive)
3. we can regulate our body temperature to adapt our environment..
4. increase human performance such as strength, speed, thinking abilities, enhance senses
should we just be contented of what we are capable of and reject any idea of improvement artificially
okay how about delayed aging?

Question #17:

Room for improvement. Nose?

I am getting rhinoplasty on my nose next year. I want to know to if I should reduce the bulbous or/and increase the bridge? It is really hard for me to wear my glasses without letting it slip. Please no bs on self-hate racist stuffs. I love myself too much but would like to improve my nose.

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I don't want to look european. I would like my nose to be in harmony with my face and damn those glasses. I am so glad I also contact! Anyways, there is room for improvement.

Question #18:

Question regarding REBT-CBT and BPD?

Question about REBT-CBT and BPD?
Hello, my husband was diagnosed with BPD over a year ago (and I can tell you as his wife of 6 years, he does indeed have it). The med he is taking works very well (Trileptal); probably an 85% improvement over his behavior without meds. He has a new therapist now who wants to do REBT with him and I can see the potential for it's success, as it does address the exact problems he has.

My issue is that the therapist has seen him twice so far and has already stated that he doesn't believe BPD is a real illness and is trying to diagnose him with something else. So far he has it narrowed down to "mood disorder." He doesn't seem to understand the severity of my husband's illness at all. Such as, he sent him "homework" home that required my husband to evaluate his own behavior and decide himself if he used any of these cognitive distortions on a list, using a 1-10 rating system. My husband cannot do this. He cannot evaluate his own behavior in any way. I didn't think he would be able to (of course, I did not tell him that) but wanted him to go ahead and try (you never know, right?). He was unable to understand most of the questions and the ones he did answer, he answered unrealistically (such as giving a "5" rating to a behavior he engages in every single day or the majority of the time). After seeing the immense difficulty he was having and realizing the therapist was going to get the wrong idea about how severe my husband's illness actually is, I finally had to explain the questions to him and give him examples of the behavior the question is referring to. How is this him evaluating himself? It feels like I am evaluating HIM and telling him what the answers are. This is not going to help.

If the therapist does not believe BPD is a real illness, how can I get him to understand how severe my husband's problems are? And how can we make this therapist understand that at this point in therapy (2 sessions in), my husband is not able to evaluate himself?

*I understand that the point of all the various forms of CBT is self-realization. However, at this time it is just not possible.
Oh no question about that at all. I don't think this therapist really understands what is going on here and I'm not sure he is actually interested to learn.

Question #19:

How good is it? Room for any improvements?

I could hear the horn of the car from my room, like a trumpet sounding the finalization of my mortal life. It was time. A fraction of me felt relieved I was finally leaving this place, but another part of me was afraid of where I was going afterward. I was relieved to leave this place because I was already getting attached and if I stayed longer I wouldn’t be able to depart. On the other hand, I’ve known that I would one day have to leave, but I wished that one day wasn’t today. Only when I saw the shaky diamonds that reflected on the wall from my earrings did I realize I was trembling. I felt like my heart would burst open any minute. Leaving my filthy rich life in Beverly Hills didn’t really affect me. I was just too fond of to people here. I hate my life. I felt like crying. No! Keep it together, Keep it together! I shouted in my head. Stopping me before I could get a major headache, the car horn went off again. Now I would have to go down in front of my family and friends and say goodbye. I said my farewell to my room which had always been my place of escape and I left to face my fate.
Everyone who knew me acknowledged that I was chosen to be a vampire and I would have to leave sometime and go to a vampire school. Now after seventeen years of mortality I would have to start learning my duties as a bloodsucker. People think, being a vampire is a great way of "having more lifetime opportunities" as it said on some magazine, but I think it’s a great way of having a life full of ripping peoples throats out. I wasn’t affected by that crimson liquid – yet. I knew I would someday (somehow).
I walked down the steps deliberately ignoring the photo of my family. Two years ago my sister, stepfather and mother had died in a house fire. My mother wanted my biological father to look after me. I lived in England. It was hard, having to move half way round the world. I’d never seen my father before because he had abandoned my mother when she was thirteen after she just found out she was pregnant with me. So he didn’t want me. Following that, my stepdad Joel came and picked up the pieces. He was like the dad I never had (which is accurate in a way).I made my way down the first flight of stairs.
My father Kyle is thirty now. His wife, Agnes, is thirty-one. She is really pretty and chirpy. She has this arrogant self-obsessed son, Tanner. He isn’t Kyle’s son, so I guess we’re not blood-related. We’re both seventeen. He has half the girls in school wrapped around his little finger. Me and Tanner never get on and never will. Kyle keeps on suggesting ways we could bond but then I give him this look and he knows to back off. When Tanner does talk to me he’s always teasing my English accent.
I was on the last flight of stairs. I’d always moaned about how long the staircase was but, strangely, today I wished it were longer. I inhaled profoundly. I walked past the imaginary boundary line to the living room. Conversation stopped and all eyes shifted on me. I rolled my own eyes.
There were, it seemed like, a million people from my school and some people I wasn’t even familiar with. Tanner and his friends were situated at the heart of the room. As customary, he was the centre of attention. Where they hiding something?
I made a huge error. Something I wished were a pencil mark I could just erase but it wasn’t as easy as that. I had shifted my long brown hair away from my face and exposed my neck to everyone. Every vampire had a special mark on their necks. It was like this dark star shape and it was all black (You were born with it and it identified you as a vampire).
I glanced around the room. Hell, with everyone looking at me I could feel myself becoming claustrophobic in the otherwise large room. They all looked so mystified. I always kept my neck covered and this was a shock to them.
“What am I, a science project?” I regretted saying that. Now was not an ideal time to use humour. Kyle and Agnes had faces of anxiousness painted on them.
“That’s my Deena, trying to crack jokes at a time like this, just like her mother.”
Someone joked. I couldn’t believe it. The best voice on the planet was calling to me. My Aunt Adele was here. Beside her were my Aunt Dakota, Uncle Allen and Grandpa Rio. I was so overwhelmed with happiness; it felt as if my heart was on a rollercoaster. I felt myself becoming out of breath.
“Hello, hello and hello.” I said it in my usual smart ass tone. “I can’t believe you’re here Aunt Ade –“
“What have I told you? It’s just Adele without the Aunt. It makes me sound youthful.” Everyone in the room relaxed a little and I even saw people smiling. This crazy lady was my mum’s sister. She always had a calm aura around her.
“But how did you make this journey all the way from Europe? It’s really expensive to travel now.” I didn’t want to sound disrespectful so I smiled in disbelief while I said it.
“Thank that young boy over there.” She went rig
Erm. . .not all of the first chapter seemed to load. The start sort of goes on and the other part is much more interestion but it never loaded. Or maybe I exceded the character limit.

Question #20:

Majoring in art...what to minor in?

I'm trying not to but I'm a Jr. and i'm stressing about what to major in. I'm really good in math, and people think I should go into sceince or medicine, but I really don't want to because I'm passionate about art. I love to draw and create things, and I also love to create stories. I'm not sure what art type majors I should be looking at, and I either want to go into illustration, graphic design or animation. I'm ok at that art work I currently do, but I'm mostly self taught and nedd a lot of improvement. Unfourtunately, I haven't been able to take art in high school. Would going to community college first be good, and what are some art majors/courses that would help me improve my skills?

I also like working with kids, mostly younger ones, and want to know if their was any kind of minor I could do to be able to work with children, or to be like an art teacher would I have to major in education and minor in art? Is an art teacher a good job?

If you have any experience, either you are in an art career or are still working on an art degree, I would like to hear what it's like.

Thanks for reading and answering.
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